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Open a case, share a code.
Pick a moment that's been sitting weird. Give it a title and a date. Ref makes a little 6-letter invite code to text to the other person.
Ref is a little app for the conversations that have been sitting in the air a bit too long. Five minutes, one neutral mediator, and something you both get to keep.
Most disagreements stall because both sides keep re-stating their case. Ref gives the conversation a shape, in three small steps.
Pick a moment that's been sitting weird. Give it a title and a date. Ref makes a little 6-letter invite code to text to the other person.
Each of you has a short, private voice session to share your side. The other person never hears it, just the mediator, so it shows up to the shared moment already knowing both sides.
Out comes a tidy little report you both keep: a percent split of where the energy went, each side's perspective in writing, and something specific to try the next time it comes up.
Built for couples, roommates, co-founders, siblings. Anyone whose disagreements deserve more than a long text thread at midnight.
The AI's job is to slow things down, reflect each side back, and help you land on the part you actually agree on.
Each person shares their side in a private voice session. Neither one hears the other, just an informed mediator who knows both stories before you meet.
After the session, Ref hands you both the same little report: an incident summary, a percent split, each side written out, and concrete things to try next time. See an example below.
Sessions cap at five minutes. Long enough to land somewhere real. Short enough that you'll actually open the app when something comes up.
Here's a peek at an actual Ref-lection. Names changed, vibe intact.
Tom said he'll plan date but never actually happened. Summer waited.
3 Very upsetNot a verdict. A starting point.